Sometimes life throws us challenges that we cannot anticipate. It isn’t “fair”, but it is the way it is. Recently I was reading an article that said most of a person’s sins are sins of omission. Not that they did anything wrong, but rather they failed to properly prepare or anticipate upcoming challenges. Crimes of omission are particularly wrenching because hindsight is 20/20. We wish someone would have warned us. Jim Rohn once said, “It isn’t what the book costs, it’s what the book will cost you if you don’t read it.” If you never read Richest Man in Babylon you’ll never know the steps to financial independence. Will this impact you immediately? In small ways yes, but in larger ways, not until you are older and it’s much harder to make up for lost time.
A Case Study
Imagine you are a father (if you aren’t). You know that the most important thing you can give your children is your presence. You come up for a promotion, and your hours at the office increase, along with your paycheck. As a result, you get to see your family less and less over the passing years as you climb the corporate ladder. Then one day you wake up and your husband or wife tells you that your child has been caught using drugs. What did you do wrong? Nothing. There was no crime in choosing your career, but that choice means you omitted the choice to be more involved in the lives of your spouse and children. You were not “bad”, and you didn’t do anything “wrong”, you just neglected what you value as most important (your family) over something less important (money).
Common Crimes of Omission and their Antidotes
Luckily, we aren’t the first people to ever walk the earth. On our life’s journey, there are certain difficulties that we can expect and plan for. Our society does a poor job of preparing us to handle life’s problems. Perhaps our parents did better? Maybe not. Maybe we got lucky and found a mentor…but then again…maybe not. In any case, I hope that by sharing some common difficulties were are likely to face and how to deal with them, I can help be a mentor to someone who needs it.
- Financial Independence
- One of the great failings of the public school system is our ineptitude at teaching our students how money works and the importance of financial literacy. We can anticipate that a person without financial literacy will always have problems with money. My personal recommendations for money advice are Mr. Money Mustache, Dave Ramsey, and of course classics like Richest Man in Babylon.
- The most relevant advice I have ever received on relationships came from Brian Tracy. In his book Eat That Frog he explains that the whole point of working hard and making money is so we can spend our money and time with those we love. He goes on to say that the quality of our relationships are in direct proportion to the amount of time we invest. Relationship advice is abundant and (in my opinion) sometimes not helpful. My personal recommendation for information about relationships comes from an unlikely source: How to Win Friends and Influence People. My experience is that if we spend sufficient time with our loved ones and interact with them using the principles written in that book, we have a good foundation to build off of.
- Health and Fitness
- This aspect is the most convoluted of all of the above in my opinion. I think most people can agree that a mainly whole food diet, coupled with cardiovascular and strength training is the ticket to better health and appearance. The best books I have read on this topic are ALL from Renaissance Periodization. Their training and nutrition advice has been the most helpful to me in regaining my desired levels of health and fitness.
No matter who you are, there are certain desires that are common to all people. We want to be healthy, wealthy, productive, and have positive relationships. Much of what determines our success in these areas are small repeatable actions, done over and over, for an extended period of time. Don’t fall prey to crimes of omission. Thanks for reading!